tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post2813223851362839276..comments2023-04-28T11:57:40.336-04:00Comments on A Life Lived Well...: 30 Day Song Challenge, Day 2: I Hate YouStacyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06316595488903619354noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post-64484472703342042962011-04-02T21:31:28.365-04:002011-04-02T21:31:28.365-04:00You have a point, Quilly.You have a point, Quilly.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316595488903619354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post-46442446452971757882011-04-02T20:36:35.846-04:002011-04-02T20:36:35.846-04:00Choose to stop the struggle. Don't say anythi...Choose to stop the struggle. Don't say anything to her when she comes and goes. Don't demand to know where she has been or what she is doing. Don't ask her when she will be home.<br /><br />I know it will be hard, but you already know you can't force her to comply, so stop trying. Once you change, you might find a surprising change in her as well. <br /><br />There is no point in rebellion if there is nothing to rebel against.quillyhttp://quilldancer.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post-27916277117778331202011-04-02T14:32:01.971-04:002011-04-02T14:32:01.971-04:00i dunno what to say here because I've never ha...i dunno what to say here because I've never had to deal with this type of situation. The only thing I would do is let her do her own thing and let her learn the hard way. That's about the only thing kids listen to. It might hurt her but it's her decision and the more you try and put a stop to this the more she is going to rebel. Tough situation. I agree with you I think this will pass. One thing I wouldn't do is do much for her when she is home. She is old enough to stay out all night, she's old enough to fend for herself at home. Tough love. I feel for ya.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post-57385399760256703882011-04-02T14:08:04.728-04:002011-04-02T14:08:04.728-04:00Ellen...We do pay the phone bill and I'd be wi...Ellen...We do pay the phone bill and I'd be willing to consider taking the phone away, but Tim isn't. He insists the kids have their phones (we still provide one for the 24 year old!) so they can call if they need us and so we can get in touch with them. It's kind of a one way deal, though, with only hearing from them or having them answer when they feel like it. :P<br /><br /><br />Rochelle...thanks. :) Isn't that the truth about not knowing crap? When I suggest that maybe, just maybe, I've learned a think or two in 46 years that she doesn't know yet she looks at me like I just fell of the turnip truck. I just keep telling myself this will all pass (I hope).Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316595488903619354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post-43612479202997757622011-04-02T10:19:31.465-04:002011-04-02T10:19:31.465-04:00Hi Stacy Lynn you are caught between a rock and a ...Hi Stacy Lynn you are caught between a rock and a hard place with your daughter. I agree that there is only so much you can do. I hate it that you are going through this. Hopefully your daughter will realize what she is putting you thought. Looking back I hated being the age your daughter is. You think you know so much, but you don't know crap.Rochelle@AFamilyofLooneyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04605268552555514174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post-82053720736643873672011-04-02T09:16:46.831-04:002011-04-02T09:16:46.831-04:00Do you pay her phone bill? If so, you could tell ...Do you pay her phone bill? If so, you could tell her she can't have her phone if she doesn't report in. Since you're not the only one she uses it to text/call, she may fight the A.D.D. and do the responsible thing.<br /><br />Contrite only counts for so much, what I tell my kids is, "Don't apologize, change your behavior. Then I will know you're sorry."<br /><br />Tough love, <br />me<br /><br />(And lest you forget, I had some boundary issues with my son brought on by a deep bout of depression, so I totally get the concern.)Ellen aka Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17892924619560880572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post-42000743957358916442011-04-02T08:32:53.929-04:002011-04-02T08:32:53.929-04:00I do talk to her...just texted with her again this...I do talk to her...just texted with her again this morning (she isn't coming home until later). Once she gets over the mad of having to report in, she's always contrite and says she knows we love her and worry, but....it doesn't make her let me know. Maybe it is just her A.D.D. that keeps her from even thinking about it? Heaven knows she's never remembered anything else important over the years.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316595488903619354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327115642045835307.post-40835286445472400782011-04-02T08:13:35.273-04:002011-04-02T08:13:35.273-04:00Mac is in grad school, and right now is living in ...Mac is in grad school, and right now is living in Baton Rouge. I live near Chicago. I'm sure your geography skills are good enough to recognize, he's far away.<br /><br />When he's home, even at 24, I ask him to let me know if he'll be out all night. Lately, since I don't text, he'll do it here, knowing I'll wake and come to the computer. <br /><br />He's only forgotten once. Perhaps if you just talk to her (not that you haven't), tell her you're fine if she's out all night, you just need to know that's been her decision so you can rest. If she doesn't, then ask her again to do so. It can be your mom's day/birthday/Xmas gift, daily respect.Ellen aka Elliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17892924619560880572noreply@blogger.com