On to the pondering....
This week's prompt: balance
Am I balanced? As in mentally stable? It probably depends on who you ask!
The world at large would probably say I'm calm and unflappable. My family, on the other hand, would probably tell you I'm prone to coming unhinged when I feel pressured. They'd both be right. I do sometimes "blow" within the safety of my family. I consider it a safety valve...something that keeps me from unleashing on the world at large and going postal from the rooftops. No one has ever seen me have a complete meltdown, though. Close, but not total. Honestly, I've learned to keep such a tight rein on my emotions that I don't know if even I have seen myself in a complete emotional explosion.
Is my life balanced? Ehhhh, probably not so much.
In my mind, a balanced life has time for God, marriage/family, work, friendship, meaningful pursuits, and fun. I do pretty well at making time for God and work (not that there's much choice about work if I want to keep my job).
I'm getting better about friendships and fun. I'm trying to be intentional (there's that One Word again) about both this year. I'm trying to make friends so I am not as reliant on Tim to fill that need. I'm trying to find things I like to do and people to do them with.
Meaningful pursuits....I still need some help with that one. I have a tendency to get bogged down on the computer or with a book
And family or couple time? We definitely need more of that, but our schedules don't mesh up very much and when they do everyone is tired (and probably a little cranky). I am willing to make changes on this one, but getting the workaholic husband to come around is tough.
Two things are helping me get a handle on balance this year.
My PlannerPerfect planner, where I lay out each day in detail (seriously, no detail is too small to write down) and then stick to the plan (though it is not the end of the world if something happens). The planner is great for me because I am so easily sidetracked. It lets me see clearly what I want to accomplish or need to accomplish each day and then I just follow the plan I laid out. If I get off track I just head back to the planner. I'm finding I get a lot more done and have a lot less stress following this plan. And just so you know, when I say I plan each day in detail...I mean it. If I'm reading a book, I schedule time to read into the day. Time to chill in front of the TV? It's in the plan.
The second thing that helps me is prayer. Lots and lots of prayer. I'm learning that I can take anything to God and he will help me stay grounded. He cares about everything. Yep, even the dirty dishes and laundry. And he will tell me when I'm getting out of balance if I listen.
Oh, and just for the record....sometimes it's okay, no...it's more than okay...it's necessary!...to take a "mental health" day. A day when you just sort of quit the world and take care of you.
Thanks for pondering along with me!