It's the same for our human children. They come into this world totally dependent on us and we love them. Oh, how we love them. We love them with a fierce love that we never knew was in us till we looked down into their small faces and felt their tiny fingers wrap around our own and they grew roots in our hearts. We teach them, protect them, nurture them, champion them. For 18 years (give or take) we are focused on preparing them for the day they will leave the nest. We know it's coming, it's what we're working toward, but still it's hard to let them go.
Some little birds are strong and sure and ready to go and while they'll be missed, there's peace that they will be okay. Some little birds are raring to go, but not quite ready and we get to keep them a little bit longer, teach them a little more, watch them mature just a little bit more. Then comes the day when there's nothing left to do but release them to God and trust him.
We're at that point. Two years ago my little bird wanted to fly more than anything in the world. We knew she wasn't ready, but she was 18, there was no way to stop her. All she wanted was out of here, to escape the memories of especially painful teenage years....and she went, leaving the nest 5 states and nearly 1000 miles behind. We cried, oh, how we cried. We knew she wasn't ready and we knew fear for her. But things didn't go as she planned and she came back to the nest a short time later. It's been two years now and when she talks about moving out this coming Spring to live with her boyfriend we can know, that while we don't agree with that choice, she is at least ready to be on her own and will be okay.
Her Facebook status a week ago:
For the longest time all ive wanted to do is move to alabama and i was so upset when it didnt work out but ya know what latrobe pa is my home it always has and always will be i always say things happen for a reason and me not makin it to alabama was probley one of the best things that happened to me cause ive met the greatest guy in the world i love him so much and i wouldnt give him up for anything ive been very blessed over the last couple years im just sad it took me this long to realize how good i have it. I love my family and friends that i have here and i dont know what i would do without them!
Joining with Ann and the others in counting the blessings.
501. A daughter who knows.
502. The quiet creep of peace spreading through my heart.
503. And entire fellowship rededicating their lives.
504. A daughter-in-law feeling better.
505. The joy just visiting someone can bring them.
506. Porches stacked with hay bales, cornstalks and bright potted mums.
507. Sun-warmed days of impossibly blue skies and dew-cooled nights of peepers calling.
508. Friends who see in you what you don't see in yourself.
509. Finding my place in the empty nest.
510. Changing priorities.